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Husbands and wives who bury their differences and keep the anger inside are likely to die earlier than those who let the sparks fly, researchers found.
Couples in which both the husband and wife suppress their anger, when one attacks the other die earlier than couples where one or both partners express their anger and resolve the conflict, according to preliminary results of a University of Michigan study.
Researchers looked at 192 couples over 17 years and placed them into one of four categories: both partners communicate their anger; in the second and third groups one spouse expresses while the other suppresses; and both the husband and wife suppress their anger and brood.
When both spouses suppress their anger at the other when unfairly attacked, earlier death was twice as likely than in all other types, the research showed.
"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict," said Ernest Harburg, professor emeritus with the U-M School of Public Health and the Psychology Department, and lead author.
"When you don't (resolve the conflict), if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble," Harburg said.
Of the 192 couples studied, 26 pairs both suppressed their anger and there were 13 deaths in that group. In the remaining 166 pairs, there were 41 deaths combined, the ‘ScienceDaily’ reported. The research, 'Marital pair anger coping types may act as an entity to affect mortality: Preliminary findings from a prospective study' will appear in the Journal of Family Communication.
LAUGHTER THERAPYBoth of them can laugh ,if husband misses the roti belan hurled by the wife..hubby can laugh,the other can laugh if it hits the target ...!!!!
Yes, but then you will get divorce as well, have to hand over half of your salary to her; cannot see your children, get outcasted socially, lose all your friends and relatives.Is there any point to be alive even after that.It is better to have Indian way, not the American way where one gets married 8 or 9 times in one's life. Indian way is to control your anger using meditations or some Yuga exercise, it works. Then you will not have any fight at all.
O.Henry's story about a couple fighting almost every evening and plates and pans flying; all this in Brooklyn.Next morning everything hunky dory and all are wished Good Morning, Brooklyn
Finally there is a solid reason for all those who love to quarrel over sweet nothings with his or her spouse. God bless the souls who carried out the study. Keep up the good work guys
This is your birthday gift. May God bless you with a long life and all your wishes come true.
This is a totally unbelievable study. It could be misanthropic, misogynic mischief.
Anger is one of the distortions in mental layer. Distortion in any of the layers is not good. In order to solve the problem of distortion in mental layer, just observe yourself, treat mind as separate entity and you are observing it, automatically you can control the mind and mental distortions will be minimized a lot because of this mental awareness. Awareness that we are separate from mind is the key....
LOVE BLOOMS IN MARRIAGES
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